Grandparents never die, they become invisible… everyone should read this, it is really very comforting
Grandparents never die, they become invisible and sleep forever deep in our hearts. And even today, we miss them and would give anything to hear their stories, feel their touch and look into those eyes filled with infinite tenderness.
Although grandparents have the joy of seeing us being born and growing up as a fact of life, we must witness how they age and say goodbye to this world. The death of a grandfather is usually the first farewell that we will have to face in our childhood.
Grandparents, who assume the active role of raising their grandchildren, leave traces in their spirits, legacies that will accompany them for life as seeds of eternal love during the days when they become invisible.
Today it is very common to see grandparents participate in the raising of their grandchildren. They represent an invaluable network of support in families today. However, children feel very well that the role of grandparents is different from that of their parents.
It is common for grandparents and grandchildren to develop a very special, deep and intimate bond, so the loss of grandparents can be very shocking and delicate on the personality of a child or adolescent. We want to reflect on this issue with you.
Saying goodbye to grandparents: the first experience with loss
For some of us who have reached adulthood to have our grandparents by our side, we have had a true privilege; However, others had to face their death while they were still in early childhood, when children still do not understand a loss like this. All the magnitude. Usually adults cannot fully explain what happened and try to soften the death as if it "doesn't hurt."
Adults must explain things clearly to their children and must tell them the truth, this is the advice of pedagogues. Of course, it is necessary to know how to adapt the news to your age. However, one must avoid making the mistake of many parents in preventing the child's last farewell to his grandfather in the hospital, or beating around the bush with metaphors such as "Grandfather is in a star or is sleeping in bed." heaven".
- We must help the child to understand death simply and without metaphors so that misconceptions are not formed. If we tell him that the grandfather is gone, the child's question is probably when he will return.
- If we are trying to explain death to the child from a religious perspective, it is necessary to emphasize the fact that the deceased will not "come back."
- Explanations should be very short, simple and direct, remember that a young mind can only absorb limited amounts of information. It is also important that adults do not hide their feelings and tears from the eyes of children.
- We must teach them that death is not taboo. It is necessary to vent about the loss of a loved one, we must suffer and talk about him freely. Children will do so at the right time and when they better understand these unfortunate events, in the meantime, we must be their facilitators.
- We have to be aware that children will ask us many questions and these requests require intelligent and precise answers. Losing grandparents in childhood or adolescence will always be a very complex matter, and the best thing you can do at this time is to grieve with the whole family and be very careful with any questions or needs from your children.
Even if they are not, they are very present.
- Even if they are not, grandparents are always in our lives, in those common places that we share with our family and even in the oral inheritance that we offer to new generations. To new grandchildren or great-grandchildren who were unable to meet grandfather or grandmother.
- The grandparents held our hands during the times while they taught us to walk, but then, what they kept forever were our hearts, where they will reside eternally, giving us their light and their memory. The presence of the grandfather is in those photos in yellow that are in a frame and not in the mobile memory.
- The grandfather is present in the tree that he once planted with his own hands or in the dress that we still have and that the grandmother sewed. They are still present in the smells of the cakes that remain in our emotional memory.
- Their memory is also in each of the wise advice we receive from them, in the stories they shared with us, in the way we tie our shoes and even in that dimple on our chin that we inherit from them.
- Grandparents are present in our feelings in a deep and delicate way. Grandparents are present in our feelings in a deep and delicate way.
- They never die, they are more than just genetics. They show us how to walk at their own pace, a little slower, how to enjoy an afternoon in the country, to learn that a good book has a different and special smell, because they have a language that goes beyond words.
- It is a language of embrace, a gentle caress, a knowing smile and an afternoon walk sharing in silence while we watch the sunset. All of this will last forever and this is where the true eternity of people takes place.
- In the loving heritage of those who truly love us and honor us by remembering us every day. Share it with your friends and family!
Original article (in English)