The other 90% is different, if we want to, if we can decide how we react to certain situations. You cannot control whether the traffic light turns red, but you can control your reaction. Let's use an example. You are having breakfast with your family. Your daughter drops a cup of coffee and stains your work shirt. You have no control over what just happened. But what will happen next will depend on your reaction. If you curse or yell or scold your daughter severely for throwing the cup on you. She will start crying. After scolding her, you are still in a bad mood and get angry with your wife for leaving the cup too close to the edge of the table. And a verbal battle begins. You shouting go upstairs and change your shirt. When you go downstairs you find your daughter too busy crying finishing her breakfast and not ready for school. She misses the bus. Your wife leaves for work angry. You drive the car at full speed to take your daughter to school. They give you a traffic ticket for speeding. Your daughter drops you off at school without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you realize that you forgot your briefcase at home. Your day started off fatal. And it seems to get worse and worse. You long to get home, but when you return, you find yourself with a small gap in your relationship with your wife and daughter. Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day? Who or what is responsible?
a) Did the coffee cause it?
b) Did your daughter cause it?
c) Did the police officer cause it?
d) Did you cause it?
The answer is "d". You had no control over what happened to the coffee. The way you reacted for those 5 seconds was what caused your fatal day. Everything could have happened in a very different way if when the coffee stained you, you had reacted differently. If you had said to him: “Okay honey, you just need to be more careful next time. After changing your shirt and grabbing your briefcase, you go back downstairs without getting upset. Do you notice the difference? Two very different scenarios. They both started the same. They both ended differently. Why? You really have no control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.
How to apply the 90/10 principle?
If someone tells us something negative. We should not give it too much importance. We must let the attack fall like water on oil. Negative comments do not have to affect or offend us. If we react appropriately we will not spoil our lives, since with each wrong reaction we accumulate frustrations and failures in all areas: work, family, health, etc.
How can we react if someone bothers us with their driving? Can we lose our papers get angry or yell? Does your mood depend on an external thing: another driver, your partner, work, mother-in-law, etc. or from you?
Our state of mind and the way we react to situations is solely up to us! Let's stop behaving like victims of the world. If our life depends on us we must be very aware of our reactions and attitudes. Remember the 90/10 principle apply it and you will be amazed with the results. You do not lose nothing if you try. The 90/10 principle is amazing. Millions of people live without taking control of their lives. Our life is ours if we assume our responsibilities.
We can change our life! And if we change our life we can help change the world!
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